Being disappointed, being CONSISTENTLY
disappointed isn’t an easy pill to swallow.
It’s
very frustrating when you keep having all your best laid plans falling to
pieces; you pray hard, work hard, do all the right things, meet all the right
people, be in the right places, press all the necessary buttons, follow up on
the matter, have hope, have faith, persevere, be positive. And yet what do you
get? NEGATIVE RETURNS!!
I know how this feels. I’ve been there.
Sometimes I find myself there again. But you know one thing I’ve learnt over
the years? It ain’t over until the Fat Lady Sings i.e. it’s not over until I
throw in the towel.
Stay with me please, I’m not here to just
tell you optimistic words because they sound nice.
As I journey through life, I’m learning
that disappointments don’t mean I’m not good enough or God doesn’t love me
enough or I have too many ‘enemies’ that have refused to die (you know what I
mean). I’m learning that most times, it just means to try again, or try
something different.
I’m learning not to be too fixated on a
particular thing, don’t be so obsessed about it that you tell yourself it’s the
only way and if that way isn’t working, then it’s not worth it. Then life
itself is meaningless and what’s the use?
That’s a DANGEROUS MINDSET My Dears.
Let me cut to the chase, here’s what I mean;
- · I want to do something, I pray, plan and work towards it, but it still didn’t pan out the way I wanted, or didn’t even work at all. PAINFUL!!! But I’m learning to take a deep breath (even take some time to feel and work through the hurt of disappointment, in order to heal). Then I work out what went wrong with my first plan. If I can’t pin-point anything I did wrong, it means the blame isn’t on me. Whoever it was that was supposed to sign off on whatever I wanted, wasn’t just feeling it/me. Still, that’s their business, not mine. Their loss, not mine. As for me, I move on. Did you get that? I MOVE ON. I’m learning not to sit and obsess, hate myself, hate others, blame myself, blame life, blame the economy, blame the country, blame the President and Government, blame ‘evil people’ etc. This kind of thinking only leads to depression and frankly, it’s a waste of precious time.
- STOP TAKING EVERY SINGLE THING PERSONAL. Not everything is about how good or how bad you are as a person, or how weak your talent/idea/business plan/proposal is. Sometimes life just wants to take us in another direction, so the first direction (or second, or third, or fourth) direction(s) won’t work until we follow the pattern pre-destined for us. Whatever the case may be, always MOVE ON, move forward, move on to the next thing, look at what else is before you. Ask yourself; What else can I do? What have I learnt from all these experiences? Do I adopt these lessons going forward? Will it help? Or do I try my hand on something totally new? Make a plan, work towards it. Don’t throw in the towel and sink into self pity. It’s a waste of precious time.
- · LIVE LIKE A CHILD SOMETIMES. For instance, a child plans to do something, he’s excited about it, so he does it, but maybe it doesn’t work out or he fails at it. It pains him, he might even cry about it, but after letting out all that emotion? He doesn’t waste time feeling sorry for himself (or continuously wondering at what a cruel world he lives in). Children have a lot of positive energy and they’re always excited about what next to do. The child gets up and gets going again; he either re-tries the first thing or moves on to another adventure. Maybe this time, he’s successful, maybe he’s not, but that doesn’t stop his momentum. The beauty of everything is that he’s always in motion; he’s learning, he’s growing, he’s enjoying experiencing different things. He’s living life.
WE
WEREN’T MADE TO BE STAGNANT. No matter what you might be going through
right now, I want you to know that. This isn’t all there is to life. Trust God,
there’s MORE. BEAUTIFUL MORE.
Don’t give up, don’t give in, keep sailing.
Stop going about with a victim mentality or a defeatist attitude. LOOK UP! LOOK
AHEAD! MOVE!
We will all see on the Victory Lane soon.
Cheers My Dears!
