Who Are You Really?

I’m one of the biggest preachers of ‘Be happy, Stay happy’.

This morning, I thought about the word ‘Happy’ and realised it doesn’t have a clear-cut formula for it. I mean, I can’t go to someone and say “Do this and that and you’re 100% guaranteed happiness”. Happy means different things to different people. What makes one person happy might be absolutely irritating to the next person. Notice how many times I’ve said happy? Yeah, that’s how indefinable the word is.

I don’t know, perhaps there’s someone out there who has a definition that can apply to everyone, if there is one, I’d like to know. It will light up the world we live in right now. There’s too much sadness and pain as it is.

So, thinking about it, I’ve come to a conclusion that happiness is personal to individuals. It doesn’t mean it can’t be achieved, it just means we need to know what makes us happy, find it and hold on to it. I discovered that one of the greatest obstacles to our happiness is PEER PRESSURE (No, don’t sneer, adults go through it too, it’s not only for the kids).

1.       We need to learn how to say ‘NO’ to those things that hurt us and ‘YES’ to the things we truly want.

2.       Don’t try to impress others, so they think you’re cool (when you’re truly dying inside) and you’d rather be somewhere else.

3.       Don’t do what everyone else is doing, stuff you take no pleasure from, just so you don’t feel left out. Let them call you boring but if it’s reading a book (or watching old movies) throughout the weekend that lights up your spirit, dear friend, go for it!

4.       I always say this and I’ll say it again; Stop comparing your life to others, you don’t know what they’re about. Focus on you and yours.

5.       Be thankful and grateful always. Stop trying to ‘fix yourself’, What are you? A constantly faulty machine?

6.       You’re perfect the way you are. Trust me, you might get to the other side of the fence and realise the grass is only greener because of fake fertilizer which has caused many diseases.

7.       If your friends always make you feel less, then what are you doing? You should have found new friends by now. And if you’ve discovered you don’t do well with friends, stop having close friends and focus on having many friendly acquaintances (‘cause no man is an island anyway).

8.       Discover WHO YOU ARE, that’s the most important thing.

The last point might sound so simple but so many of us have spent a major part of our lives trying to be someone else, we don’t know who we are anymore. What makes you unique? If I was to ask you to write a composition about yourself, how will you start? And what words will stand out? Will you start by describing physical attributes or will it be character?...hmmm, I hear someone thinking; what’s the difference? Does it matter? It does. A LOT.  It shows what’s more important to you in how you see yourself.

Consider the points above, look at the life you live presently, have you clipped your wings because of so many years of trying to conform to who you think you should be? Have you let yourself soar? There’s so much to you, you haven’t even discovered yet. You’d be surprised how much God has deposited in you, talents/gifts you haven’t even explored. You can NEVER be anyone else; God didn’t make a mistake when He made you (Even with all your quirks and ‘imperfections’).

My final thoughts; Friend, know thyself! Find what (or who) makes you happy, embrace it (or the person), hold on tight to it (or the person), never let it (or the person) go. (A quick one though, don’t base your happiness too much on someone else, only God can fill that role perfectly)

At the end my friends, perhaps together, we’ve just discovered the formula to happiness after all huh? *wink*

Have a great week My Dears!

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