MARCH, MY BOOT CAMP.

We’ve successfully scaled through the month of March.

I thank God for the experiences, the ups and downs, the lows and highs and everything in between.

For this post, I’ll like to share some of last month’s experiences with you. My hope is that it inspires you, interests you or at least, make you laugh.

IN MARCH;

• I told myself no more toiling and slaving away for people who don’t appreciate me or what I do. Henceforth, I will focus more on building my own dream; my career and everything that has to do with it. Fast-forward to a few days later, I get a call from a friend who needs my help for a production. I was excited and eager to help this friend out, I brought in everything I’ve got to back up this project. I bought into the “Let’s do this together, we’re a family” speech. Then the “I don’t have money” charade and avoidance tactics began. And of course, I was at the receiving end of it all.  Very soon, I found myself broke, disappointed and terribly pissed off. I could almost hear my spirit telling me “Ronke, you never learn. Why did you get involved in something without watching your back? How do you like your situation now?” Painful Lesson learned; NEVER EVER neglect to protect your interest 100%, especially in business. Put sentiments aside, do your job (or duties) very well and keep it moving.

• Then I told myself I want to become someone who never lets negative situations get to her; no more grudge-holding or malice-keeping, just pretend you don’t hear or see it (‘it’ being anything that will/might annoy me). You know the saying; see no evil, hear no evil…that sorta thing. All of a sudden, it was like everyone around me (family members included) were out to frustrate me. I tried to play the ‘you don’t affect me’ game, but at a time, I couldn’t hold it in anymore, I sparked! 

        

Then I was disappointed in myself; why did I get so angry? I hate being angry. Yes, anger is healthy at times, but when you’ve bottled in so much, you end up flaring up unnecessarily over the tiniest infraction. Then, you start getting weird looks from everyone around. You can almost hear their thoughts; “Why is she so angry? Just because someone moved a spoon?” “Is that how she is?” “Na wa o. Common say persin sneeze, she dey vex. Na so life be?”. While I tried to make restitution, I learnt my lesson: No matter how ‘tough’ or ‘disciplined’ you think you are, you are not that strong. You can achieve anything you set your mind to ONLY by God’s grace. Ask for God’s help always. He is The One who will give you the peace and strength you need to thrive in anything, anywhere and with anyone.

• Also, I decided to be much more friendly. I was thinking; ‘Ronke, you really should make more friends, explore more, pull more people into your life’. Soon, in my bid to be friendly, I met a stalker. At first, it was kinda charming, and even when the ‘stalkery’ tendencies started manifesting, I laughed, it was funny, seemed cute…until it got weird and disturbing.

     

All my brave moves, expert manoeuvres and firm push didn’t work. When I was tired of trying to figure it out and fix it myself, desperate to escape this Stalker, I prayed to God for help. God had a brilliant (really funny) way of stepping in and things cleared up. (I know, I know, I’m skimming off the top, not giving full details, sorry about that…okay, if you want the real story, no holds barred, send me an email, I’ll tell you how it all went down). Lesson learned; There’s one thing being friendly and there’s one thing being foolish. I was foolish in how I handled the situation from the onset. I must always stay true to myself and trust my gut feeling more. Also, Stalkers ARE NOT CUTE!

I could go on and on, tell you about a Whatsapp group I found myself in, that turned out to be full of  randy adults with perverted tendencies, or my gluttony phase where I just couldn’t stop eating (it was like I had never seen food before), or some other situations I think are too personal to share here (Don’t be mad, I can be private like that). I had QUITE the time of it in March! I learnt a lot and grew up some more.

You see, when we pray for wisdom, knowledge and understanding, I believe these life experiences are God’s way of teaching us, developing us while answering our prayer. That is wisdom, it is knowledge and definitely understanding.

So far, April has been pretty cool, I thank God. But stay frosty, who knows? I just might have a different type of shuttle ride this month. I’ll keep you posted Darlings!

Remember; Sky is the beginning, the universe is vast, keep moving on and up, God’s got you.