ME, 2018

We are practically at the end of the year…and what a year too!

For me, this year has been a very incredible journey! It feels like I lived 10 lifetimes in 2018! I’ve learnt a lot, I’ve grown so much (sadly, not in physical height) and I’ve finally come full circle.

I was thinking about what my last post should be for 2018 and The Spirit of God inspired me to share with you a bit about my journey(s) so far. So stick with me while I walk you through.

·         I learnt that forgiving is therapeutic: Now, I know most times it’s not easy to ‘simply forgive’ and move on, especially when you believe you are the wronged party. But do you know that it’s as easy to forgive as it is hard? What I mean is, all you have to do is LET GO, but it can be difficult to ‘just let go’ when you keep waiting for the other party to ‘come to the realization of their wrong ways’ and apologise, or in extreme cases, wanting something evil to happen to them so you can feel vindicated. Phew!  I read something once that freed me from this mindset. 

          

         

        

            Here it is below; 

<<<< If you embrace this approach to issues, you will begin to live a freer and happier life. Stop thinking “What? You are telling me to just forgive the person like that? After what he/she did?”  Yes! That’s EXACTLY what I’m telling you to do! I know it’s not so straight-forward to let things go, believe me I know, but try it and you’ll experience what I’m talking about. 

The freeing, lighter sensation of the mind, body and soul. Really, why burden yourself continuously when you can simply let go and move on?

Don’t forget too, there are two sides to every story, It might even be YOU who is in the wrong, think about that for a minute.

Which leads me to this;

·         I learnt that apologizing shows wisdom and maturity: Here are three points that sums it up correctly; 

Apologising doesn’t make you a weak person. NO! It just shows how far you’ve grown as a human, how wise you’re becoming and the good leadership qualities you’re embracing. Stop being one of those people who thinks “No way! It’s he/she who should come and say sorry first because of this/that reason” or “If I apologise, people will now say I’m a mumu or I’m weak”.  It’s a warped orientation when you consider the act of apologising as something only ‘weak/foolish people’ do. It shows how small your mind is.

Now, please understand this; apologising does not mean you must continue to be in the person’s life. There are times when the relationship has run its course or doesn’t add value to your life or only brings pain or its all manner of wrong for you. If this is the situation, apologise as the circumstance demands (That is if it’s very clear you also share blame in the wrong-doing) and move on.  And if it’s absolutely clear you have no fault in the matter, forgive and move on. This is how to become a better version of yourself, a version of you that will put joy in your life and peace in your heart always. Always remember it’s about YOU, not about the other person.

Which leads me to this one;

·         I learnt how to move on and forward: We hear the words ‘Move on’ many times. In fact, I think I’ve said it a lot of times to many people, verbally and written. But this year, God laid emphasis on the fact that moving on means moving forward. That is, actually MOVING FORWARD with your life; A change of attitude, a change of friends (if necessary), a change in location (if required), a change of goals (or in some cases, setting real goals), a change of viewpoint (positivity state of mind, that glorifies God, that gives you joy), a change in appearance (fitness goals, dressing better), a change of social activities (or in some cases, start engaging in more social activities) and the most important; A change in my relationship with God, building a stronger bond with my Creator, The Ancient of Days.

This is what moving on and forward means. Taking practical steps to make things happen, not just saying/wishing it. Believe me, it was amazing the things I experienced this year when I started putting this into practice.

And finally…

·         I (re)learnt that God only is My Supplier: My Father, My Deliverer, My Best Friend. It took a period of harsh awakenings to remember to only always put my absolute trust in God. I went through situations in my personal life and in my career where I had trusted people to help, but got ice-cold water splashed on my face, figuratively.  It took me back to when I started my journey in my career. I knew no one and had no godfather/mother to help pave the way, I remembered how God kept showing up for me because I leaned on Him alone. That was when I coined the mantra for myself ‘GOD IS MY SUPPLIER’. I trusted that He who gave me the talent will supply the work, projects and Clients, that He will open doors for me. And He did. Magnificently, beautifully.

Going through stuff this year led me full circle back to that state of mind again. I really thank God because when I Let Go and Let God, the testimonies came flooding in! Boy did God show up! Beyond my wildest imaginations!

So I end 2018 – through all the ups and downs, the challenges, the lessons, the victories –  with a smile on my face and a grateful heart to God. I’m grateful for all the growing up I had to do this year. I’m grateful for the journey I’m on and I’m happily giddying up to meet 2019.

Hopefully, this post has blessed you in one way or the other. If you’re struggling with anything, I pray that God shows up powerfully for you in that situation before the year ends. AMEN!

What was your 2018 like Darlings? Tell me, I’d love to hear.